Many of us women grew up with the 1950’s version of the Cinderella story told by Disney. An underprivileged, overworked handmaiden is used and abused by her wicked stepmother and two wicked step sisters. Envied because of her beauty, the stepmother and her less than darling daughters sabotage Cinderella’s chances of going to the ball.
Then, by fate, she runs outside with tears streaming down her eyes and lo and behold, a fairy godmother comes to her rescue. Within seconds she goes from rags to riches with one caveat: by the stroke of 12 midnight, she must depart. Otherwise, she will be exposed as the step-and-fetch-it girl for Lady Tremaine.
We all know the story. Cinderella makes her way to the ball where the handsome, dashing prince cannot seem to keep his eyes (nor his hands) off of her. She runs off into the night because the magic spell wears off. Disappointed and filled with despair the prince must have his bride. He sends the grand duke to discover the whereabouts of this damsel with the trademark glass slipper. Through many twists and turns, the prince ends up with his bride and Cinderella lives happily ever after.
Sounds good….only if that were the true story.
A few months ago, I started a YouTube channel making videos about topics unique to black women (hence the decline in blogging). Scanning through the comments of other channels, next to healing and desiring a better life, finding a life partner was on top of the list. I would like to say my “spidey senses” were tingling to find a new subject video, but I knew it was the Holy Spirit. I can’t remember when I heard this but it was quite disturbing. The whole idea of the two wicked step sisters fitting their big feet into the glass slipper was not accurate. According to the Grimm Brothers version (1812) these two sister cut off a toe and a heel to fit into the shoe!
That led me to believe, much of what we grow up hearing as children, we believe as grown adult women. And when we do not experience hypergamy or find that handsome, dashing prince, our hearts are broken and our expectations are disappointed. Delusional and angry, we ultimately end up blaming God for not finding our Denzel Washington or Chris Evans.
Well, because my channel draws women of many beliefs, I try my best to avoid any scriptural reference so they don’t think I am trying to start an internet church. But for those who peruse my bible blog, using scripture is the only way to go. How does God respond to the Cinderella story?
“For we have not followed cunningly devised fables…” II Peter 1: 16
The context of this verse falls in between God’s promises and avoiding false teachers. The Apostle Peter was encouraging the church to rely upon scripture and avoid any personal interpretation. The word fable in New Testament usage is not equivalent to parables. Rather, fables are stories that are passed off as truth but full of lies, much like Cinderella.
If you have a little girl and are faced between the choice of Disney or the bible, choose the Word of God. At first glance it doesn’t seem like there is anything comparable to Cinderelly, but we all know that our Heavenly Father works in love and deals with truth. If there is any story you can tell your sweet darling about finding her “prince charming,” the story of Ruth would be the way to go.
The book of Ruth is really about the providence of God; however, there are so many great takeaways we can glean. Very soon I will be writing the Cinderella version of Ruth, so be on the look-out. But until then, remember, Ruth as a single woman chose to serve a God she did not know, accept a people that was not her own, and work hard to make sure she could provide for herself and her mother-in-law. In the end she was blessed with a husband of means and a bouncing baby boy who was the grandfather of King David. Serving God has its privileges!